Sexy Man In The Kitchen & Pewter

When it comes to lovemaking locations, let’s face it, most couples confine themselves within the four walls of the bedroom. No wonder lovemaking becomes routine as time passes. When I tell my clients that sex begins in the kitchen, they’re shocked, then amused, as if I said something kinky. There is nothing naughty or kinky about it; it’s just common sense. A man in the kitchen is hot!

How a couple interacts while the coffee brews and as the breakfast food is prepared and shared affects how they will interact in the bedroom that night. Sex starts in the kitchen in so many ways. There is nothing more basic to the home than the hearth, and nothing more basic to the relationship than meeting each other’s physical and emotional needs.  So combining them is a powerful, time-tested aphrodisiac.  The fact is, if you want to make love at night, it is wise to start showing love in the morning and continue throughout the day.

JD and I started expressing our love this morning in bed with the art of spooning. Like two babes, our warm bare flesh curled up against each other and a strong mutual feeling of intimacy developed. The tender beats of our hearts in concert started the day off superbly. His endowment pressing firmly against me, JD didn’t need to state his intentions – but the day’s agenda was full and we really needed to get moving. I ruefully said, “Sorry, Honey” and stroked him sympathetically as I slipped out of bed, into some clothes, and headed for the kitchen to make coffee.

I was greeted by our hungry kitty, Pewter, the moment I entered the kitchen.  Pewter still acts like a kitten, and is one of the best pet rescues we’ve made. One day sitting at my desk, a client walked in and dropped this gorgeous 10-week-old Russian Blue kitty in my lap, saying it was on its way to the Humane Society.  She was the last of the litter to find a home and had a slightly deformed leg. Her family was moving out-of-town within days and could not sell or even give away a less-than-perfect kitten. I was unsure I wanted to introduce a kitten into our home with Walter, our Blue Weimaraner, consuming so much of our attention, but one look into her blue eyes and I was smitten!

Walter and Pewter were mortal enemies at first, but by the end of the day they were cuddling like mother and child.  They now keep each other company while JD and I are gone and I’ll have to admit, multiple pet households are great!

For a quick breakfast I requested JD’s fabulous Dried Cherry, Hazelnut, White Chocolate, Twice-Baked Cookies.  But with puppy-like eyes he said, “You don’t say!  We don’t always get what we want, now, do we?”  I laughed with him as he cradled the cookie tin and opened the lid barely enough for me to slide one precious cookie out then slammed it shut.  I thought to myself, “Hmmm…withholding food for sex.  I wish now I hadn’t passed on that tent pitched in the sheets!”

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Dried Cherry, Hazelnut, White Chocolate Twice-Baked Cookies


3 cups all-purpose flour, plus more for work surface

• 1 cup sugar

• 2 teaspoons baking powder

• 3/4 teaspoon salt

• 1 tablespoon grated orange rind

• 4 tablespoons melted unsalted butter

• 2 tablespoon fresh orange juice

• 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract

• 3 large eggs

• 3/4 cup dried sweet cherries or cranberries chopped

• 3/4 cup hazelnuts, toasted and chopped

• 1/2 cup white chocolate chips


Preheat oven to 350 degrees

Combine flour, sugar, baking powder and salt together in a bowl. Set aside.

Mix eggs, melted butter, vanilla, orange and rind in a large bowl until blend well. Then add in dry ingredients 1 cup at a time until all ingredients are combined. Add cherries, chocolate and hazelnuts – mix by hand with a wooden spoon.

Turn the dough out onto a lightly-floured surface. Knead lightly a few minutes to be sure that cherries, chocolate and hazelnuts are well-distributed. Note: the dough will be sticky, so lightly add more flour if necessary. Divide dough in half.

Shape each half into long oval-shaped logs, and flatten to 1” thickness. Place on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper and bake at 350 degrees for 35 minutes. Remove flattened logs from baking sheet and let cool for 15 minutes on a wire rack. Then cut each roll diagonally into 1/2” slices.

Reduce oven temperature to 300 degrees.

Place the slices cut-sides down on a baking sheet and bake for 10 minutes. Remove, and turn each slice over, and bake for another 10 minutes.

Remove and cool on wire racks.

You may not think of your kitchen as a sexual playground, but that will change soon. All you need is a little creativity and inspiration. Make sure the kitchen is visually appealing and at the very least, organized. Everything tidied up? OK, then, grab some more coffee and explore my blog site!

Having coffee and a bite to eat in the mornings, JD and I really bond as lovers. Off go the TV, the computer, and hand-held devices.  The only thing hand-held is….well, you know.

This morning, we were enjoying being in the kitchen, and JD started to get frisky. He surely was building up the sexual tension standing just a few feet from me with a devilish look on his face and his masculinity straining his briefs.   Taking a sip of coffee, I moved toward him — but Pewter interrupted my plan!  As cats want to do, Pewter entangled herself in my feet at that very moment.  I zigged as Pewter zagged and disaster was unavoidable. The ordeal seemed in slow motion as I lurched toward JD, arms flailing, and the best I could do was catch his elastic waist band. I feel to my knees pulling JD’s briefs half off his hips. “When the urge strikes, Babe, just go for it,” he teased!

Pulling his briefs on down to the floor, I buried my face in him, kissing all over, no longer concerned about the day’s schedule.

The possibilities for sex in the kitchen are endless. There are warm, cold, hard and soft surfaces accommodating positions ripe for oral lovemaking and others perfect for intercourse.  It is a virtual buffet of options!  Not to mention the sheer excitement of possibly being seen by the neighbors!  Even if you’re not this adventurous, always keep the sexual fire going by flirting — touching, squeezing, rubbing –in the kitchen as much as possible. Keep your hands busy!

It’s no secret that creativity in the kitchen excites your man with great tasting and visually appealing food. So why not add another creative dimension to your home’s hearth? After all, there is no end to the possibilities when the chef is nude except for an apron. Making lasting memories with a man in the kitchen will fulfill that sexual appetite, too!

According to a recent survey, over half of US couples have sex in the heart of their home at least annually. Not bad! So go ahead and create your own recipe for a kitchen sex-capade! Visit Attire A’more for more ‘under the pants’ sexy views.

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Easy & Very Cheesy Fajita Nachos

This adopted recipe comes from when I was single. I wanted something quick and easy for dinner. Something hardy! Less than 10 simple ingredients and I had very cheesy fajita nachos on the table. I dislike soggy chips so this recipe eliminates that issue.

Scarlett Skillet Cheesy Fajita Nachos


  1. 1 Tbsp vegetable oil
  2. 1 lb – Sliced Chicken Breast into strips
  3. 1 Onion, peeled and sliced with the grain into strips.
  4. 2 Bell Peppers, Green and Red, stemmed, seeded,      de-ribbed, sliced lengthwise into strips.
  5. 1 can – Cream of Mushroom Soup
  6. 1 jar – 16oz Salsa or Picante Sauce
  7. 1 pkg – 16oz Velveeta Mexican Cheese cut into 1” cubes.
  8. 1 can – Black Beans rinsed and drained
  9. Sliced jalapenos – optional
  10. Organic Tortilla Chips


Set your cast-iron skillet over high heat and let it heat up for 1-2 minutes. Add the tablespoon of oil and let heat up. Add chicken strips, fry until golden, about 5 minutes. Add the onion and pepper slices and sauté for 5 minutes.

Add cream of mushroom soup, stir. Add salsa or picante sauce, stir. Add cheese and stir until melted and mixture is hot.

Serve with your desired amount of tortilla chips topped with the cheesy fajita mixture, black beans and jalapenos if you wish. (Hint: JD warms the tortilla chips in the microwave for about 15 seconds)

There are numerous variations and additions – let your imagination take you places for incredible food and sex! Visit Ridiculously Simple – 3 Ingredient Spicy Cheese Sauce and Ridiculously Simple – 3 Ingredient Spicy Seafood Cheese Sauce for fundamental sauces to build upon.

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Bon Appetite,


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Farm Bread Salad In A Skillet

JD makes his own farm bread, a mild sourdough, with a hard crust and a chewy texture inside. I always imagine sitting around a French farmhouse table waiting for dinner when the aroma of his bread fills the house. Save yourself time and purchase a loaf at your local bakery and enjoy this great skillet dish!

Inspired with a classic bread salad from that uses a skillet, sliced garlic, fresh cherry tomatoes and a splash of aged balsamic with fresh oregano, JD creates an exquisitely simple dinner entrée. This is a perfect way to showcase tomatoes and let your creativity sore. For extra texture and substance, JD often changes it up with the addition of pine nuts, olives, fresh mini-mozzarella balls, or crispy bacon!

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Skillet Panzanella written by Katie Webster

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Two Spiceful Lives – One Special Needs Child

crying womanKG had planned to come for dinner two nights ago, but JD and I had to cancel. Meg had shown up at our door with bloodshot eyes, streams of tears coming down her cheeks and carrying her baby. Brie, just seven months old, had been diagnosed with severe, life-threatening food allergies, and Meg was devastated.  She couldn’t even nurse.Why her? Hasn’t she been given enough to deal with? What’s next for the poor child?” she wailed. How could her sweet little daughter ever enjoy birthday parties, school events or simply a well-deserved sweet treat?  Childhood is tough enough without additional obstacles, and this was just the latest in a series of heartbreaking diagnoses.

When Brie was born she seemed lethargic and scored poorly on the Apgar, but the nurses tried to act optimistically.  I had spent enough time with babies to realize there was something disturbingly unusual about the one in my arms. This precious child was unresponsive, entirely too still and flaccid.

I’ll always remember the drive home from the doctor’s office the day Brie was diagnosed with “floppy baby syndrome”, or hypotonia, a state of low muscle tone. “What the hell does that mean for her? The doctor said it’s not a specific medical disorder. What do I do with that?” Meg screamed angrily.  I let her vent her rage and fears the entire way home. What can one do in a situation like this, but listen and promise to always be there for them both?

The underlying cause and the child’s future is a mystery still.  But as the diagnosis settled in, Meg came to grips with the fact that her perfect angel was not physically perfect, and they would both face lifelong challenges.  Meg stopped looking backward or forward and simply dealt with one day at a time; one moment at a time it seemedIt took many weeks for her expectations to shift from “normal” to “special”, but she characteristically dived into researching the syndrome, treatments and support groups. My heart secretly ached watching them struggle through the cycles of life—and now this latest blow just complicates what was already devastating!

A stranger looking at Meg—attractive, well-dressed and fit— might sum her up as a typically ‘together’ young woman without a care in the world. But looks are so deceiving. On top of caring for a special needs child, dealing with a rocky marriage and a hoard of financial issues, Meg’s hearing-impaired twin brother, Nut, recently moved in, adding fuel to the fire.

Meg’s husband, Pedro, a hardworking man, is plagued with many disturbing opinions and is outwardly homophobic. He never liked Nut—having heard rumors about him—but against Pedro’s vehement objections, Meg allowed Nut to move in. Her obligation to Nut, obviously, is not helping their marriage.

My blogging experience has made my life more complete, and in a strange way it is doing something for Meg, providing much-needed distraction. Every day she inquires about the blog, and two to three times a week we brew coffee and discuss what I should write about or add to the format. Attempting to convince her to become a contributor, Meg simply chuckles and says, “I have enough on my plate, thank you very much, and I am not one of your clients!”  True, Meg is not a paying client wanting to be inspired to find more in life, but ironically she inspires me every day! My intentions are for this blog to help her financially, knowing she has many sleepless nights worrying what will happen when the day comes she can no longer care for Brie. Your support is greatly appreciated! Visit Scarlett Skillet E-Store and help me make a mother with a special needs child live without too many worries.


I have known Meg and Nut, the “Nutmeg Twins” we called them, my entire life. We went to the same school and their family owned the farm next to my parents. There are many stories to tell; in fact they could fill an entire blog themselves. “Nut” is the nickname Meg bestowed upon her brother years ago. Being deaf from birth, Nut was often misunderstood by the “hearing” world. I have to admit, at times he did act rather nutty, but it was usually more the case of us not understanding his needs.  Today, Nut is a deaf man dealing with the complications of relationship with a distinct disadvantage. He’s certainly making Meg’s life more difficult, but I suspect he’ll be fodder for this blog in the future

“What am I going to do?” Meg demanded as she paced our kitchen the other night. Looking around she said, “It looks as if you two are entertaining tonight.”  JD went to get some ice and I explained that KG was coming over. “OMG,” Meg said, “He cannot see me like this!”  JD and I knew she was in no condition to socialize or to drive home.  JD made a call to KG, Meg fed the baby and put her down, and I made all three of us a pitcher of dirty martinis with bleu cheese-stuffed olives.  We were in for the night!

After swilling her first martini like a trooper, Meg began talking about Nut’s recent business trip. A mathematical genius, Nut found his calling as an auditor. There he could immerse himself in a world of numbers with few personal interactions. His boss traveled with him to on-site audits and to fill in the communication gaps, but there was something about this trip that shocked us all!

There were many rumors surrounding Nut as a kid, indicating that he could have interest in guys beyond skinny-dipping in the creek. But we figured he was simply going through the normal transition in becoming a man. However, his 10-year marriage going awry along with the email Meg held in her hand, confirmed the rumors.

Meg said she found the email carelessly open on her computer and confronted Nut. His response was simply, “What two adult men do on their own time, is their business!”

JD asked, “What? The two of them drank too much and shared a woman?” After all, Nut and his boss are two damn good-looking guys.  JD and I were speechless as Meg continued, “Nut and his boss have been having an affair!”  Our mouths fell open as Meg read the words off the paper she held:

Warning – if sexually explicit dialog disturbs you, please stop reading now!—

Hey ‘Boss’,

I was so looking forward to spending the week with you in Seattle. I knew you would make it a fun trip; I just didn’t how much fun you could be! We certainly saved the company some money by sharing a room! LOL The view on the 30th floor was incredible—especially inside!

I became instantly aroused when you stripped down in front me. As men, I know we all have the same junk, but having been married for years, I have developed modesty. Your body was the most beautiful sight my travel-worn eyes could have fallen upon. When you came out of the shower and dropped your towel, you noticed my response through my briefs immediately. You certainly took the queue from my hungry stare that you had me. I attempted to warn you but you took everything I had and you hungrily accepted.

Your appetite astounded me the entire week. I was so happy to be all yours!  Having hot, passionate sex every night, devouring each other and climaxing in unison was amazing!

Unfortunately, the week passed all too quickly and it’s back to the grind. We must always remain professional, but I cannot help stealing glances at you in the office. Thank you for arranging for the trip and for taking the leap!

BTW thank you for the site recommendation; “Bi Like Me – The life and times of a masculine, closeted, bisexual man!” It is great to know I am not alone.

Seattle is beautiful, and so are you!  Any plans for the weekend, Boss?


As difficult as this is for Meg to digest, she’s really dreading Pedro finding out.  He would have a fit! But what really troubles me is our taboo-ridden culture imposing boundaries and pressures on a man like Nut.  Beneath his hard, masculine exterior is a longing for true intimacy with another human being. An instinctual yearning for a real sense of sharing on the deepest emotional level has escaped Nut all his life. I cannot believe it is strictly about male sex as much as male bonding.

No one chooses to have food allergies, to be physically disabled, or to be void of hearing the song of a bird.  Similarly, no one chooses to be straight, gay or bisexual. Irrespective of our design, we are all products of Nature and it is our responsibility to live a purposeful life! I suggested Meg check out Married Gay to help her understand what may be going on.


DYK: Did you know nutmeg, one of the oldest spices, is unique among spices? The seed is dried, shelled and sold either whole or ground as the spice nutmeg. The outer, red, fleshy skin is also dried and ground, producing the spice knows as mace. Two spices from one nut!

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Sugar-Free Sorbet With Yonanas

JD and I are ice cream addicts but we want to reduce our intake of refined sugar calories and carbs. As a nutrition coach, JD is always wanting us our diets to include more fruit. Now, we make our own 100% fruit soft serve “sorbet” in a minute—without added sugar—thanks to the Yonanas Frozen Treat Maker. Yonanas almost instantly transforms your favorite fruits—banana, berries, mango, pineapple, the whole fruit department—into a silky-smooth, healthful frozen confection. This Human Performance Inspirationalist likes that everything but the motor portion goes right into the dishwasher!

If you can’t wait another moment to order a Yonanas machine, head to Scarlett Skillet’s Store here!

Skillet Artisan Fire Oven Pizza

JD and I love old-world style pizza! We found an incredible addition to our outdoor living kitchen at Kalamazoo Outdoor Gourmet. A gas-fired outdoor pizza oven updated in stainless steel with individually controlled deck and ceiling burners. My sexy man cooking pizza concoctions, with the flavors of fall in mind, ignite all my appetites viewing him, pizza and flames!

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Skillet Pasta Carbonara

JD is such a sexy man cooking pasta alla carbonara! I love it in its many forms and variations. Luscious and wonderfully indulgent, it takes him as long to prepare as it does for the pasta to cook. Simple, high quality ingredients make all the difference and when you add a pinch of nutmeg the fans rave. JD uses a recipe at Simply Delicious as his base and let’s his imagination soar with his scarlett skillet in hand.

It is Never Just Black & White

Summer is passing quickly. Having change on my mind, I continue to seek inspiration for our living-kitchen-theater remodel. After all, the holiday season is not far off, and it surely would be nice to have it completed. A dramatic new backdrop to feature my sexy man cooking would be fabulous!

Inspiration surrounds us at all times. As an example, JD left early this morning, leaving a warm presence inside me. I picked up his B&W satin bow tie, laid it on the white pillowcase along with JD’s shiny-red aluminum condom case and said to myself, “Wow, I wonder what my living-kitchen-theater would look like in these basic colors!”

The phenomenon of color lies in the context of each individual’s life. Visceral reactions emanate based on one’s experiences and interpretations. The purity and innocence of white, the sexuality and sophistication of black, and the excitement and passion of red all have symbolic and emotional connotations for me. As dramatic as this kitchen design is already – it spurred many thoughts. What compliments a design more than the presence of a man at one with his surroundings, free of too much fabric, free of concerns and inhibitions? There is nothing like a man cooking in the buff wearing only a bow tie and apron to let the imagination soar and happiness swell inside – a spectacular ‘mise en place’ for any recipe!

On this crisp, fall-like day, I recall craving fresh salsa one night last winter. Most of the typical ingredients being out of season, JD used his favorite roasted sweet potatoes salsa recipe and added some pomegranates and blackberries for a splash of summer. We enjoyed a winter salsa that led to a very happy ending.  JD looked into my eyes that night, and with sweet cinnamon on his breath, whispered, “I have loved you always. I’ve loved you since the day I met you in KG’s office. Your beautiful mouth still numb, I loved the way you tried so hard to sound alluring with those full, fat, numb lips” he teased. “Seriously, I cannot tell you how often I’ve looked at you with lust and with love and ached to throw you down and make love to you right then and there!”

I’ll always remember that winter evening. The spectacular happened right there in our kitchen. JD’s gaze never left mine as the swirl of natural instinct came over his body. My eyes told him I was having the same thoughts as I played with his protruding nipples and he mine. We both knew that soon JD would be sinking into my body. My insides melting with anticipation, I wanted bred long and hard! We moved to the warmth of our bedroom.

The walls echoed with our moaning and groaning reaching to a fevered pitch several times during the hour. JD deeply embedded, nature was driving him to have his whole body into my welcoming warmth. Panting, as though he could not catch his breath, JD wanted release in a most maddening way. Our tongues wrestling, JD turned his piston-driven movements to a gentle back and forth love making that gave us both the full effect of our united bodies. I was in a heavenly state, feeling JD’s hardness rub my intimate insides. I so deeply wished that we never had to stop.

There was a tingling that started to curl my toes when JD’s breathing became jagged and his body was writhing at a whole new level. The intensity building up in us both, I felt myself, beyond reason, clamping down and feeling JD’s member swelling at the same time. Evidence of my sexy chef engaged in great sex filled the air and there was no avoiding his explosive orgasm.  With all the fullness a man can provide, a crescendo of pleasures rippled through our bodies simultaneously!


I don’t recall falling asleep, but I do remember dreaming of snow fluttering down, melting into the blackness of our pond, and a stunningly bright cardinal landing nearby.   I awakened to the aroma of a Spiced Apple Pancake but I wanted nothing more than for JD to return to bed. Instead we snuggled in front of a fire, feeding each other slices of the pancake sprinkled with powdered sugar – really; there are very few things as wonderfully memorable as that.

I surely thank you for stopping by Scarlett Skillet, where food and sex are the norm. Have you tried my Spiced Apple Pancake suggestion at Scarlett Skillet Tidbits on Facebook?

KG is stopping soon, and I need to prepare for his visit. I am sure he will have a great story or two. Besides he has a great appetite, which JD loves, and always a devilish look in his eyes. This Daniel Nassoy image reminds me of KG so much!

Skillet Soup with Wild Mushroom & Coconut

Note: Scarlett Skillet™ warns some wild mushrooms are poisonous, and they can easily resemble edible species. Ingesting them can make you ill or kill you! It is your responsibility to identify any wild food with 100% certainty before consuming said product. Again, we assume no responsibility or liability for any ill effects that result from visitors to Scarlett Skillet™ eating wild mushrooms or plants!

In addition, allergies to mushrooms are rare, but some people do find them hard to digest. Learn more about the health-promoting properties of mushrooms at  JD finds it a great source for information about gourmet edible mushrooms, as well as dried and extracts.

Inspired by The Ardent Epicure, JD took his skillet in hand and prepared Chilled Wild Mushroom & Coconut Soup. Click here for recipe source and home to the images. The photography, alone, is appetizing, to even a non-foodie!


Many cultures have considered mushrooms the source for super-human strength and sex drive. However, the aphrodisiac properties are still being debated, but JD is my Popeye between the sheets after we enjoy this soup with a Grilled Provolone & Veggie Basil Sandwich.


Figs, Coffee, Vanilla, Cheese and Pizzelle’s – The Incredible Happens

Figs, packed with potassium, manganese, and antioxidants, this superpower fruit helps keep your immune system strong. I love how a man’s back-view resembles a fig turned upside down. Every time JD is shirtless and working with our fig tree, my insides stir with passion.

JD adopted an idea he found at “Recipe Doodle” and inspired by their image; he creates his Vanilla Coffee Bean & Almond Figs. Simply delicious! Cut a slit from stem to end in the side of 2 dozen dried figs, or so. Do not cut all the way through!  Stir together 4 ounces of softened cream cheese, 3 teaspoons of powdered sugar, 2 teaspoons of vanilla extract and 6 ground coffee beans. Evenly fill each fig with this mixture, insert 1 roasted salted almond to disappear into cheese mixture, and press figs to secure filling. Bon Appetite!

Mixing these bite-sized morsels with a Fig and Camembert Cheese appetizer on a platter, JD is the envy of most dinner parties.  Believe or not, they are incredibly tasty! Simply create irregular pieces of broken vanilla-flavored pizzelle’s. Typically 3 per pizzelle. Uniformity is not a concern.  Place some Camembert Cheese on top of one piece, top with sliced dried figs and cap with another pizzelle piece.  Have fun and wait for the sounds of raving fans.