Great Food on the Plate, Great Sex, Great Playmate, NO?

“It’s your plate, not your mate.” That’s what authors Robert Fried, Ph.D. and Lynn Eldlen-Nezin, Ph.D., tell us in their book “Great Food, Great Sex, The Three Food Factors for Sexual Fitness.” Sexual turn-ons are 90% above the collar, but only if everything below the belt on your playmate is functioning with optimal potential.

We have various drugs that can help such as Viagra®, Cialis®, and Levitra®. However, eating for an incredible sex life requires an understanding of a chemical compound known as nitric oxide or NO for short. Scientists know for certain that NO is a common facilitator for many neurotransmitters involved in controlling the male erectile reaction to any stimulus. Note: nitric oxide [NO] is not to be confused with nitrous oxide [N2O], a general anesthetic, or with nitrogen dioxide [NO2] which is a poisonous pollutant.

Eating and living healthy are essential for optimal penile functions. Take advantage of the production of NO with a diet rich in whole grain, fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts, and olive oil. Focus on unprocessed carbohydrates, healthy fats and lean protein or healthy protein sources such as fish.

Simply, the three “L’s” are the three main food categories that are great sources for NO along with excercise.

  1. Leafy greens, nitrogen rich vegetables and beans.
  2. Lean meat, fish, soybeans, nuts and legumes.
  3. Lots of bright colors in fruits, tea, olive oil and, of course, an occasional glass of red wine and moderate amounts of dark chocolate!

Two of the greatest pleasures in life are sex and food. Nothing else comes close. Engage in a better daily sex diet with great food on the plate and enjoy mind-blowing great sex! Don’t forget to enjoy a glass of red wine and chocolate with your playmate, too! Use food to enhance sex and visit Scarlett Skillet for more about penile preservation and visual stimulation.

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Sexy Man In The Kitchen & Pewter

When it comes to lovemaking locations, let’s face it, most couples confine themselves within the four walls of the bedroom. No wonder lovemaking becomes routine as time passes. When I tell my clients that sex begins in the kitchen, they’re shocked, then amused, as if I said something kinky. There is nothing naughty or kinky about it; it’s just common sense. A man in the kitchen is hot!

How a couple interacts while the coffee brews and as the breakfast food is prepared and shared affects how they will interact in the bedroom that night. Sex starts in the kitchen in so many ways. There is nothing more basic to the home than the hearth, and nothing more basic to the relationship than meeting each other’s physical and emotional needs.  So combining them is a powerful, time-tested aphrodisiac.  The fact is, if you want to make love at night, it is wise to start showing love in the morning and continue throughout the day.

JD and I started expressing our love this morning in bed with the art of spooning. Like two babes, our warm bare flesh curled up against each other and a strong mutual feeling of intimacy developed. The tender beats of our hearts in concert started the day off superbly. His endowment pressing firmly against me, JD didn’t need to state his intentions – but the day’s agenda was full and we really needed to get moving. I ruefully said, “Sorry, Honey” and stroked him sympathetically as I slipped out of bed, into some clothes, and headed for the kitchen to make coffee.

I was greeted by our hungry kitty, Pewter, the moment I entered the kitchen.  Pewter still acts like a kitten, and is one of the best pet rescues we’ve made. One day sitting at my desk, a client walked in and dropped this gorgeous 10-week-old Russian Blue kitty in my lap, saying it was on its way to the Humane Society.  She was the last of the litter to find a home and had a slightly deformed leg. Her family was moving out-of-town within days and could not sell or even give away a less-than-perfect kitten. I was unsure I wanted to introduce a kitten into our home with Walter, our Blue Weimaraner, consuming so much of our attention, but one look into her blue eyes and I was smitten!

Walter and Pewter were mortal enemies at first, but by the end of the day they were cuddling like mother and child.  They now keep each other company while JD and I are gone and I’ll have to admit, multiple pet households are great!

For a quick breakfast I requested JD’s fabulous Dried Cherry, Hazelnut, White Chocolate, Twice-Baked Cookies.  But with puppy-like eyes he said, “You don’t say!  We don’t always get what we want, now, do we?”  I laughed with him as he cradled the cookie tin and opened the lid barely enough for me to slide one precious cookie out then slammed it shut.  I thought to myself, “Hmmm…withholding food for sex.  I wish now I hadn’t passed on that tent pitched in the sheets!”

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Dried Cherry, Hazelnut, White Chocolate Twice-Baked Cookies


3 cups all-purpose flour, plus more for work surface

• 1 cup sugar

• 2 teaspoons baking powder

• 3/4 teaspoon salt

• 1 tablespoon grated orange rind

• 4 tablespoons melted unsalted butter

• 2 tablespoon fresh orange juice

• 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract

• 3 large eggs

• 3/4 cup dried sweet cherries or cranberries chopped

• 3/4 cup hazelnuts, toasted and chopped

• 1/2 cup white chocolate chips


Preheat oven to 350 degrees

Combine flour, sugar, baking powder and salt together in a bowl. Set aside.

Mix eggs, melted butter, vanilla, orange and rind in a large bowl until blend well. Then add in dry ingredients 1 cup at a time until all ingredients are combined. Add cherries, chocolate and hazelnuts – mix by hand with a wooden spoon.

Turn the dough out onto a lightly-floured surface. Knead lightly a few minutes to be sure that cherries, chocolate and hazelnuts are well-distributed. Note: the dough will be sticky, so lightly add more flour if necessary. Divide dough in half.

Shape each half into long oval-shaped logs, and flatten to 1” thickness. Place on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper and bake at 350 degrees for 35 minutes. Remove flattened logs from baking sheet and let cool for 15 minutes on a wire rack. Then cut each roll diagonally into 1/2” slices.

Reduce oven temperature to 300 degrees.

Place the slices cut-sides down on a baking sheet and bake for 10 minutes. Remove, and turn each slice over, and bake for another 10 minutes.

Remove and cool on wire racks.

You may not think of your kitchen as a sexual playground, but that will change soon. All you need is a little creativity and inspiration. Make sure the kitchen is visually appealing and at the very least, organized. Everything tidied up? OK, then, grab some more coffee and explore my blog site!

Having coffee and a bite to eat in the mornings, JD and I really bond as lovers. Off go the TV, the computer, and hand-held devices.  The only thing hand-held is….well, you know.

This morning, we were enjoying being in the kitchen, and JD started to get frisky. He surely was building up the sexual tension standing just a few feet from me with a devilish look on his face and his masculinity straining his briefs.   Taking a sip of coffee, I moved toward him — but Pewter interrupted my plan!  As cats want to do, Pewter entangled herself in my feet at that very moment.  I zigged as Pewter zagged and disaster was unavoidable. The ordeal seemed in slow motion as I lurched toward JD, arms flailing, and the best I could do was catch his elastic waist band. I feel to my knees pulling JD’s briefs half off his hips. “When the urge strikes, Babe, just go for it,” he teased!

Pulling his briefs on down to the floor, I buried my face in him, kissing all over, no longer concerned about the day’s schedule.

The possibilities for sex in the kitchen are endless. There are warm, cold, hard and soft surfaces accommodating positions ripe for oral lovemaking and others perfect for intercourse.  It is a virtual buffet of options!  Not to mention the sheer excitement of possibly being seen by the neighbors!  Even if you’re not this adventurous, always keep the sexual fire going by flirting — touching, squeezing, rubbing –in the kitchen as much as possible. Keep your hands busy!

It’s no secret that creativity in the kitchen excites your man with great tasting and visually appealing food. So why not add another creative dimension to your home’s hearth? After all, there is no end to the possibilities when the chef is nude except for an apron. Making lasting memories with a man in the kitchen will fulfill that sexual appetite, too!

According to a recent survey, over half of US couples have sex in the heart of their home at least annually. Not bad! So go ahead and create your own recipe for a kitchen sex-capade! Visit Attire A’more for more ‘under the pants’ sexy views.

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Easy & Very Cheesy Fajita Nachos

This adopted recipe comes from when I was single. I wanted something quick and easy for dinner. Something hardy! Less than 10 simple ingredients and I had very cheesy fajita nachos on the table. I dislike soggy chips so this recipe eliminates that issue.

Scarlett Skillet Cheesy Fajita Nachos


  1. 1 Tbsp vegetable oil
  2. 1 lb – Sliced Chicken Breast into strips
  3. 1 Onion, peeled and sliced with the grain into strips.
  4. 2 Bell Peppers, Green and Red, stemmed, seeded,      de-ribbed, sliced lengthwise into strips.
  5. 1 can – Cream of Mushroom Soup
  6. 1 jar – 16oz Salsa or Picante Sauce
  7. 1 pkg – 16oz Velveeta Mexican Cheese cut into 1” cubes.
  8. 1 can – Black Beans rinsed and drained
  9. Sliced jalapenos – optional
  10. Organic Tortilla Chips


Set your cast-iron skillet over high heat and let it heat up for 1-2 minutes. Add the tablespoon of oil and let heat up. Add chicken strips, fry until golden, about 5 minutes. Add the onion and pepper slices and sauté for 5 minutes.

Add cream of mushroom soup, stir. Add salsa or picante sauce, stir. Add cheese and stir until melted and mixture is hot.

Serve with your desired amount of tortilla chips topped with the cheesy fajita mixture, black beans and jalapenos if you wish. (Hint: JD warms the tortilla chips in the microwave for about 15 seconds)

There are numerous variations and additions – let your imagination take you places for incredible food and sex! Visit Ridiculously Simple – 3 Ingredient Spicy Cheese Sauce and Ridiculously Simple – 3 Ingredient Spicy Seafood Cheese Sauce for fundamental sauces to build upon.

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Bon Appetite,


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Farm Bread Salad In A Skillet

JD makes his own farm bread, a mild sourdough, with a hard crust and a chewy texture inside. I always imagine sitting around a French farmhouse table waiting for dinner when the aroma of his bread fills the house. Save yourself time and purchase a loaf at your local bakery and enjoy this great skillet dish!

Inspired with a classic bread salad from that uses a skillet, sliced garlic, fresh cherry tomatoes and a splash of aged balsamic with fresh oregano, JD creates an exquisitely simple dinner entrée. This is a perfect way to showcase tomatoes and let your creativity sore. For extra texture and substance, JD often changes it up with the addition of pine nuts, olives, fresh mini-mozzarella balls, or crispy bacon!

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Skillet Panzanella written by Katie Webster

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Human Performance Inspirationalist & A Child with Special Needs

As a Human Performance Inspirationalist, I inspire others to exceed their personal expectations. Often times I must do this through example. In our ever-changing world there are trigger-points that make us stop and take inventory of ourselves and of our lives. Mine came one day when I held a child with special needs in my arms.

The baby was lethargic and scored poorly on the Apgar, but the nurses tried to act optimistically. I had spent enough time with babies to realize there was something disturbingly unusual about the one in my arms. This precious child was unresponsive, entirely too still and flaccid.

I’ll always remember the drive home from the doctor’s office the day I learned this special child in my life was diagnosed with “floppy baby syndrome”, or hypotonia, a state of low muscle tone. The underlying cause and the child’s future is a mystery still.

We all have come to grips with the fact that this perfect angel will not be physically perfect, and we face lifelong challenges. There is no looking backward or forward, we simply deal with one day at a time; one moment at a time. Daily expectations shift from “normal” to “special”, and my heart secretly aches watching moms’ of special needs child struggle through the cycles of life!

My blogging experience has made my life more complete. My intentions are for this blog to help when the day comes the Lord calls us home, and there is no one to care for a special needs child. Your support is greatly appreciated! Visit Scarlett Skillet E-Store and help me make a family, with a child with special needs, live without too many worries. The incredible can happen with your support!

Scarlett Skillet™ is a Forum for Culinary Arts, Masculine Masterpieces, & Ideas. A place where food and sex appetites are brought together harmoniously, a unique production that entertains inspires, and more importantly will make a difference for a child with special needs!

Call it tumbled nature, call it depraved, call it outrageous, but it is none-the-less a real example of a Human Performance Inspirationalist loving a child and wanting their life to be incredible – regardless of challenges!

God Bless and Thank You!

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Wicked Walter and His Treats

For anyone who has ever loved a dog, you have to watch Jimmy Stewart read his poem A Dog Named Beau on The Tonight Show in 1981. Warning – get your hanky before you view! Then give your dog an extra hug and a treat.  Click the image below for a beautiful presentation.

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I have nowhere near to the culinary expertise that JD has, but I enjoy making homemade dog treats for Walter, our Blue Weimaraner.  I will be routinely posting recipes that Walter enjoys consuming and I like to make. They are quick, easy and nutritious, and I am sure your dog(s) will devour them!

Walter, a Germanic name meaning “ruler of the army”, was the most dominant of the litter, and she has not changed with the passing of time.  Thus her name is quite fitting, although an intern at the vet’s office was confused when we brought her for spaying!  Full grown now, she proclaims herself the ruler of her domain by where she makes her bed and in the neighborhood by mounting any dog who questions her dominance.  Our veterinary behaviorist told us mounting is common behavior in puppies and a common play gesture in older dogs as long as it is not extreme.  Her social skills have improved, but the early days brought annoying giggles to some, and outrage to others.

expressionOften the funniest things happen in everyday life. On an evening stroll with Walter we encountered an elderly neighbor– our very own Miss Daisy– a true Southern belle and totally unflappable.  She welcomed us to the neighborhood by inviting Walter to come play with her perfectly coiffed standard poodle, Billy Boy, noting that the “boys” would enjoy her backyard, designed like an elaborate dog park.

We left Walter and Billy Boy to their own devices, chatted for a bit, and then continued our evening constitutional, promising to collect Walter on our way back.  We had barely gotten to the corner before we heard Miss Daisy shriek, “Come get your wicked dog!”

JD ran back to retrieve Walter, and returned describing an incensed and totally confused Miss Daisy, railing at Walter’s rude and inappropriate behaviorI guess our Walter showed Billy Boy who’s dominant and who’s submissive!

So our loving, but “Wicked” Walter is waiting patiently as I remove another sheet pan of Walter Wheat Treats from the oven.  To make them for your dog, just mix

2 jars of chicken baby food,

½ cup non-fat dry milk,

2 ounces of wheat germ,

1/3 cup water, ½ cup flour and

1 tsp. garlic powder

in a bowl. Mix well and roll the dough on a floured surface. Cut out a favorite pattern and place on lightly greased cookie sheet. Bake in a 325 degree oven until golden brown, about 30 -35 minutes.

Bone Appetit!

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Two Spiceful Lives – One Special Needs Child

crying womanKG had planned to come for dinner two nights ago, but JD and I had to cancel. Meg had shown up at our door with bloodshot eyes, streams of tears coming down her cheeks and carrying her baby. Brie, just seven months old, had been diagnosed with severe, life-threatening food allergies, and Meg was devastated.  She couldn’t even nurse.Why her? Hasn’t she been given enough to deal with? What’s next for the poor child?” she wailed. How could her sweet little daughter ever enjoy birthday parties, school events or simply a well-deserved sweet treat?  Childhood is tough enough without additional obstacles, and this was just the latest in a series of heartbreaking diagnoses.

When Brie was born she seemed lethargic and scored poorly on the Apgar, but the nurses tried to act optimistically.  I had spent enough time with babies to realize there was something disturbingly unusual about the one in my arms. This precious child was unresponsive, entirely too still and flaccid.

I’ll always remember the drive home from the doctor’s office the day Brie was diagnosed with “floppy baby syndrome”, or hypotonia, a state of low muscle tone. “What the hell does that mean for her? The doctor said it’s not a specific medical disorder. What do I do with that?” Meg screamed angrily.  I let her vent her rage and fears the entire way home. What can one do in a situation like this, but listen and promise to always be there for them both?

The underlying cause and the child’s future is a mystery still.  But as the diagnosis settled in, Meg came to grips with the fact that her perfect angel was not physically perfect, and they would both face lifelong challenges.  Meg stopped looking backward or forward and simply dealt with one day at a time; one moment at a time it seemedIt took many weeks for her expectations to shift from “normal” to “special”, but she characteristically dived into researching the syndrome, treatments and support groups. My heart secretly ached watching them struggle through the cycles of life—and now this latest blow just complicates what was already devastating!

A stranger looking at Meg—attractive, well-dressed and fit— might sum her up as a typically ‘together’ young woman without a care in the world. But looks are so deceiving. On top of caring for a special needs child, dealing with a rocky marriage and a hoard of financial issues, Meg’s hearing-impaired twin brother, Nut, recently moved in, adding fuel to the fire.

Meg’s husband, Pedro, a hardworking man, is plagued with many disturbing opinions and is outwardly homophobic. He never liked Nut—having heard rumors about him—but against Pedro’s vehement objections, Meg allowed Nut to move in. Her obligation to Nut, obviously, is not helping their marriage.

My blogging experience has made my life more complete, and in a strange way it is doing something for Meg, providing much-needed distraction. Every day she inquires about the blog, and two to three times a week we brew coffee and discuss what I should write about or add to the format. Attempting to convince her to become a contributor, Meg simply chuckles and says, “I have enough on my plate, thank you very much, and I am not one of your clients!”  True, Meg is not a paying client wanting to be inspired to find more in life, but ironically she inspires me every day! My intentions are for this blog to help her financially, knowing she has many sleepless nights worrying what will happen when the day comes she can no longer care for Brie. Your support is greatly appreciated! Visit Scarlett Skillet E-Store and help me make a mother with a special needs child live without too many worries.


I have known Meg and Nut, the “Nutmeg Twins” we called them, my entire life. We went to the same school and their family owned the farm next to my parents. There are many stories to tell; in fact they could fill an entire blog themselves. “Nut” is the nickname Meg bestowed upon her brother years ago. Being deaf from birth, Nut was often misunderstood by the “hearing” world. I have to admit, at times he did act rather nutty, but it was usually more the case of us not understanding his needs.  Today, Nut is a deaf man dealing with the complications of relationship with a distinct disadvantage. He’s certainly making Meg’s life more difficult, but I suspect he’ll be fodder for this blog in the future

“What am I going to do?” Meg demanded as she paced our kitchen the other night. Looking around she said, “It looks as if you two are entertaining tonight.”  JD went to get some ice and I explained that KG was coming over. “OMG,” Meg said, “He cannot see me like this!”  JD and I knew she was in no condition to socialize or to drive home.  JD made a call to KG, Meg fed the baby and put her down, and I made all three of us a pitcher of dirty martinis with bleu cheese-stuffed olives.  We were in for the night!

After swilling her first martini like a trooper, Meg began talking about Nut’s recent business trip. A mathematical genius, Nut found his calling as an auditor. There he could immerse himself in a world of numbers with few personal interactions. His boss traveled with him to on-site audits and to fill in the communication gaps, but there was something about this trip that shocked us all!

There were many rumors surrounding Nut as a kid, indicating that he could have interest in guys beyond skinny-dipping in the creek. But we figured he was simply going through the normal transition in becoming a man. However, his 10-year marriage going awry along with the email Meg held in her hand, confirmed the rumors.

Meg said she found the email carelessly open on her computer and confronted Nut. His response was simply, “What two adult men do on their own time, is their business!”

JD asked, “What? The two of them drank too much and shared a woman?” After all, Nut and his boss are two damn good-looking guys.  JD and I were speechless as Meg continued, “Nut and his boss have been having an affair!”  Our mouths fell open as Meg read the words off the paper she held:

Warning – if sexually explicit dialog disturbs you, please stop reading now!—

Hey ‘Boss’,

I was so looking forward to spending the week with you in Seattle. I knew you would make it a fun trip; I just didn’t how much fun you could be! We certainly saved the company some money by sharing a room! LOL The view on the 30th floor was incredible—especially inside!

I became instantly aroused when you stripped down in front me. As men, I know we all have the same junk, but having been married for years, I have developed modesty. Your body was the most beautiful sight my travel-worn eyes could have fallen upon. When you came out of the shower and dropped your towel, you noticed my response through my briefs immediately. You certainly took the queue from my hungry stare that you had me. I attempted to warn you but you took everything I had and you hungrily accepted.

Your appetite astounded me the entire week. I was so happy to be all yours!  Having hot, passionate sex every night, devouring each other and climaxing in unison was amazing!

Unfortunately, the week passed all too quickly and it’s back to the grind. We must always remain professional, but I cannot help stealing glances at you in the office. Thank you for arranging for the trip and for taking the leap!

BTW thank you for the site recommendation; “Bi Like Me – The life and times of a masculine, closeted, bisexual man!” It is great to know I am not alone.

Seattle is beautiful, and so are you!  Any plans for the weekend, Boss?


As difficult as this is for Meg to digest, she’s really dreading Pedro finding out.  He would have a fit! But what really troubles me is our taboo-ridden culture imposing boundaries and pressures on a man like Nut.  Beneath his hard, masculine exterior is a longing for true intimacy with another human being. An instinctual yearning for a real sense of sharing on the deepest emotional level has escaped Nut all his life. I cannot believe it is strictly about male sex as much as male bonding.

No one chooses to have food allergies, to be physically disabled, or to be void of hearing the song of a bird.  Similarly, no one chooses to be straight, gay or bisexual. Irrespective of our design, we are all products of Nature and it is our responsibility to live a purposeful life! I suggested Meg check out Married Gay to help her understand what may be going on.


DYK: Did you know nutmeg, one of the oldest spices, is unique among spices? The seed is dried, shelled and sold either whole or ground as the spice nutmeg. The outer, red, fleshy skin is also dried and ground, producing the spice knows as mace. Two spices from one nut!

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Sugar-Free Sorbet With Yonanas

JD and I are ice cream addicts but we want to reduce our intake of refined sugar calories and carbs. As a nutrition coach, JD is always wanting us our diets to include more fruit. Now, we make our own 100% fruit soft serve “sorbet” in a minute—without added sugar—thanks to the Yonanas Frozen Treat Maker. Yonanas almost instantly transforms your favorite fruits—banana, berries, mango, pineapple, the whole fruit department—into a silky-smooth, healthful frozen confection. This Human Performance Inspirationalist likes that everything but the motor portion goes right into the dishwasher!

If you can’t wait another moment to order a Yonanas machine, head to Scarlett Skillet’s Store here!

Skillet Artisan Fire Oven Pizza

JD and I love old-world style pizza! We found an incredible addition to our outdoor living kitchen at Kalamazoo Outdoor Gourmet. A gas-fired outdoor pizza oven updated in stainless steel with individually controlled deck and ceiling burners. My sexy man cooking pizza concoctions, with the flavors of fall in mind, ignite all my appetites viewing him, pizza and flames!

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